When we are living out of alignment with our own values, it is WAY to easy to be susceptible to people’s criticism.
Haters are hating to trigger us…and unfortunately we all too often get triggered by their BS.
But that is a mistake.
And we make that mistake usually because we have our own hater living inside of us. That is because our society programs us, especially women, to critique ourselves. We look at our bodies or even our faces, and we find everything wrong.
It’s sad to see how the media we are exposed to trains us in this way. All the ads, even the entertainment, are designed to make us compare ourselves to perfect, airbrushed bodies that don’t even exist in the real world.
SO of course when we hear people commenting : “it must be nice to go to the gym...or it must be nice that your clothes are loose… or it must be nice to be able to afford healthy food…or it must be nice to have a health coach” it is all too easy to fall into that negative thinking.
Some people don’t want you to succeed… but they are deep in the trap of being stuck with a bad lot. That does not mean you have to listen to them or let them trigger your inner critic.
The truth is that more often than not it’s how you prioritize things.
I think it's because they try to cover up the fact that they don't do anything about becoming healthier. Or maybe they just need a little motivation, but they aren't at the point of wanting to commit that deeply
When people see that it actually CAN BE DONE they are left with the hard cold truth that their excuses of not seeing results are just that... EXCUSES!
It hurts to hear these messages from the outside, but it hurts more to hear them from the inside.
When we can learn to love ourselves from the inside out…when we can break free from the media that trains us to deprecate ourselves…when we can shake off the haters… then we feel like:
I don't let it get to me because nobody is gonna stop me from becoming healthy!
You don't have to go hungry or kill yourself working out to lose weight.
You can't please everyone…but you can grow big ones!
I'm doing this for me!
So how do you get to this point? Well, when you approach your diet changes as a lifestyle approach you have to address the BIG PICTURE of your life. You look at all the pieces of the puzzle that got you where you are (wanting to change), and break them down one by one to make changes that last!
1. Give up dieting mentality – it keeps you fighting yourself.
2. Listen to your body – honor what you need.
3. Be prepared – make sure you are ready for your busy days!
What can you learn from the haters in your life?
I help busy, ambitious leaders to step off the emotional eating roller coaster, so they can lose weight and keep it off, still eat all the foods they love, and finally find the work life balance they crave.