I do not market self care as part of my services at all...and yet it's probably in the top 2 things I actually work with clients on! Specifically in the form of stress management.
And, yes, I also struggle with my own self care!!! No one is going to tell me "Go to bed" or "Go stretch your body" or "Drink some water" - only my MOM did that, and now I am the mom!!!! So I have to listen to myself and my BODY!
In it's most basic form I think self care comes down to honoring what you need (talking and doing are not the same, doing is honoring), and having boundaries that support that.
For me it all comes to boundaries, with my husband (hard), with my business (harder), with my kids (hardest). It's hard to not do the things that everyone else needs. It's hard to take care of yourself FIRST, but it's essential.
But my body talks when I’m not honoring myself I get sore, I get crabby, I get headaches.
Simple things can help:
A large glass of luke warm water upon waking.
A night away at a girlfriend’s house. Even if she has kids, that’s not the same as my own J
Ideally time to myself before the kids get up (but sometimes – actually MOST of the time- I sleep in until they wake me, and I’m fine with that, too!).
It’s hard to prioritize your own body. I don’t know why. But I see it all the time, in clients, with friends, and it’s even something I have to recommit to periodically in my own life.
That is where the diference lies… you can keep going down the path you are on, and you will keep getting what you have been getting.
Or you can commit to changing old patterns and creating new habits that help you feel great. It takes a lot of deep work to do this. It’s simple, but it’s not easy.
A professional can help. I’ve benefitted from hiring coaches along the way! Want to know how you can benefit from a coach? Ask me your questions!